I discovered a family secret. How do I bring it up with my parents?
I found some old paperwork that revealed a family secret that my parents obviously went to great lengths to cover up from me and my brother. But now that I know the truth, I want to confront my parents to really know what happened. I don't want to upset them but I don't want to walk around pretending I don't know either. How do I bring it up so I can learn the rest of the story without causing them to panic know that I have this information?
I am keeping a family secret. What do I do?
I listened to your episode about uncovering a family secret and it got me thinking even more about a family secret that I'm holding onto. My sister got pregnant years ago after basically having a one night stand. She started dating someone not long after and they decided to just pretend like the baby was his. My niece is now 10. She has no idea that the man she calls dad isn't her dad. I am sure she'll find out someday one way or another. And I can't help but worry that she will be mad at me for not telling her. I hate to keep the secret. I've asked myself what a mentally strong person would do and I don't know the answer. Please advise.
Am I suppressing my childhood trauma or unfazed by it?
This seems like a silly question but I don't know what to think. I had a rough childhood but I know a lot of people did. I don't particularly care and I don't think I'm traumatized from it. In fact, I think it taught me a lot about life and I'm glad I went through it. I hear people talk about healing their childhood wounds and figuring out the unhealthy stuff they learned from childhood and part of me wonders if I'm just pretending it didn't bother me. Or maybe I learned bad habits and don't recognize them? Then I think maybe I'm just overthinking.
How do I stop letting people upset me?
I lose my temper in conversations more often than I care to admit. Sometimes I'm short with a customer service person who is just trying their best and sometimes I just get annoyed with friends and family and I'm not proud of how I respond. What can I do to stop letting people upset me so much?