My sister-in-law gives me unwanted advice. What do I say?
My sister-in-law feels the need to tell me what to do all the time. She makes suggestions for what I should wear when I'm going to an event. She makes suggestions on where our family should go on vacation. She tells me what to do to build my business but she has literally never owned a business. I usually just say "Okay" and change the subject because I don't want to have conflict but it's annoying that she seems to know everything. What can I say or do to make it stop?
My girlfriend always asks me how I feel. But I don't know how to feel so what should I say?
My girlfriend is always asking me how I feel about stuff. I don't really have an answer. I'm not exactly experiencing deep emotions every second of the day. I'm not sad or happy. I'm just there. She doesn't seem to believe me though and she gets frustrated. Is it normal to just not know what I feel or to not feel anything? What am I supposed to say to her?
I dig myself into incredible messes. How do I stop doing this?
I get myself into ridiculous situations like I agree to something I don't want to do and end up on some volunteer committee from hell. I bring it on myself sometimes too. I volunteer to help with something because I think it's a two hour project and then learn it's a 3 week commitment. It's not just volunteer stuff though. I once dated someone for six months and I didn't tell him something huge about my past. It wouldn't have been a big deal if I had just told him up front. But I waited so long I couldn't find the courage to do it. And got myself in another mess. Why do I always seem to get myself into stupid messes for no real reason and how do I stop?
How do I help my friend who has depression when I'm emotionally drained?
My good friend has been depressed off and on since I've known her. I'm her main support person. This latest round of depression has lasted a long time and it's happened during a time when I'm busy with things going on in my life. I want to keep helping her but at the same time, I feel emotionally drained. I know I should be taking care of myself and saying no sometimes but when I try, I feel guilty, and think I should be able to do one more thing for her. How do I know when it's OK to say no?