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I have many goals and not enough motivation. What do I do?

I want to read more books, lose weight, become a better cook, spend more time with family, etc. I convince myself I'll start doing those things one day and the next day I convince myself I don't have time. What do you do when you have too many goals, not enough time, and decreasing motivation?

I keep telling myself not to say something racist and then I can't concentrate. What can I do?

I feel like I am pretty lucky and normal, except I have one issue that has been swirling in my head for 20 years and I can't shake it, but I'm thinking it might be a Catastrophic thought. Not sure if you have heard of this one before, but my struggle is when speaking in groups or presenting is sorta ridiculous and embarrassing. I worked as an admissions counselor at a college after I graduated and did a lot of medium sized presentations, and I felt like I was pretty good at it, but started getting bored with them. So I then started telling myself not to say something racist out loud while presenting, stupid I know, but here I am today still dealing with it and its caused me to get distracted in my subsequent different jobs. I reached out to a counselor and she gave me a couple suggestions, but was just curious if you’ve heard of others having this issue?

Do I have to talk about my childhood with my sister?

My sister is a couple of years older than me so we remember our childhoods very differently. She understood what was going on and is traumatized by it. I had no idea what was happening so I thought it was a great childhood. When we moved a lot, I thought it was an adventure. She was old enough to realize it was because we were evicted. I thought we were camping at my grandparents living room. She knew we were basically homeless and trying to get away from mom's abusive boyfriend. I'm not scarred from childhood but she is. She always wants to talk about it though and tells me stories that I don't want to hear. She insists I need to know the truth but I don't think I do. Do I have to talk about my childhood with my sister?

How can I become more vulnerable?

What are ways that I can practice being more vulnerable with my partner and my adult children? It makes me feel needy and I really don’t know where to start

How do I stop feeling jealous?

I have a great relationship with my wife. We have been together for 10 years and we're in love. She's beautiful in every way and I know other people notice it as well. Every once in a while when I see a man talking to her or when she talks about someone she works with, I feel jealous. I know she's faithful to me and I feel like the jealousy I feel is a sign of weakness. I'm a confident person overall but how do I get rid of the jealousy?