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Am I'm not sure I forgive my mother. What does that say about my mental strength?

When I was growing up, my mom dated and married several abusive alcoholic men. They were abusive to me and my siblings in many ways. I have an okay relationship with my mom most of the time now that I'm an adult. I have moments where I think she likely didn't know any better and that's why she allowed those things to happen. She grew up in a horrible environment and probably did the best she could raising us. Then I have other moments where I'm mad at her and think she could have stopped the abuse at any time but didn't and I don't forgive her. Sometimes I think I'm just fooling myself into thinking I forgive her so I can mov on. At other times, I think forgiving her would mean I am letting her off the hook. What's the relationship between mental strength and forgiveness? And what does it say if I don't really forgive my mom?

When does staying home mean I'm setting a healthy boundary and when does it mean I'm being selfish?

I am not into parties and celebrations but I have friends who love any excuse to throw a party. I recently declined to attend a friend's gender reveal party because I find such things exhausting sometimes. But another friend told me I was selfish. I thought I was setting a healthy boundary. How do you know when to draw the line and say no to something as a way to take care of yourself and when do you push yourself to do something you don't want to do because you're being a good friend?

What rules can I set for my teenage daughter who is having sex?

My almost 17-year-old daughter is sexually active. I would prefer that she wasn't but I realize I can't prevent her from doing it. I would like to set some rules, like not allowing her to do it in our home. I'm from a generation where I was taught pre-marital sex was wasn't an option. I want to teach my daughter to be respectful of our rules and of her body but this seems tough. What are reasonable rules we can set?

I can't drag myself out of bed in the morning. Any tips?

I hit the snooze button like 10 times every single morning. At the last possible second, I have to jump up and run out the door to work and I look awful and feel terrible. Sometimes I'm late. I feel like the bad start to they day ruins the whole day. I have self-discipline in other areas of my life but it's hard to feel like a strong person when I can't even drag myself out of bed on time. Do you have any tips for how I can get myself more motivated in the morning?

How do you podcast from a boat?

Your episodes always say you record from a sailboat in the Florida Keys. Can you do an episode about how that works and how you're able to record on a boat? And what it is like?