My 7-year-old doesn't like the way he looks. What do I do?
Yesterday my son, who is 7 and half year old , as he was washing his face looked in the mirror and said “ mumma I don’t like the way I look . My head is too big and mouth is too small and ears are like a monkey. I look like a monkey.” I had absolutely no idea how to react to this. I asked him if anyone has told him so.. to which he replied NO .. he said I think I look like a monkey . I did not react at all.The conversation got deflected when he started talking about other random things . What do I tell my little one ? How do I make him understand that these thoughts are not helpful . And also what is the right way to react to a child when you don’t have an answer. I don’t want to tell him that he is wrong and he is good looking. Please help.
How do I respond to mean comments from a friend?
I have a "friend" who says mean things. It's like she can't give a compliment without adding an insult to it. Or she teases me but the jokes she makes seem serious, like she is actually jealous or she is trying to make me feel bad. Here's an example. If she comes for dinner, she might say, "Oh this is delicious. Way better than that last meal you made where the noodles were still crunchy and the edges were burned!" And she says stuff like that in front of other people. How do I know if I'm being too sensitive or if she is being rude and how do I respond to those things?
How do I not blow my progress in a moment of weakness?
I'm trying to get healthier. I am exercising and eating better most of the time. When I'm having a bad day though I grab fast food and indulge. When I'm upset I snack all afternoon. I think it only takes one day or a few hours to undo all the progress I make the rest of the week. How do I stop that?
I keep telling myself not to say something racist and then I can't concentrate. What can I do?
I feel like I am pretty lucky and normal, except I have one issue that has been swirling in my head for 20 years and I can't shake it, but I'm thinking it might be a Catastrophic thought. Not sure if you have heard of this one before, but my struggle is when speaking in groups or presenting is sorta ridiculous and embarrassing. I worked as an admissions counselor at a college after I graduated and did a lot of medium sized presentations, and I felt like I was pretty good at it, but started getting bored with them. So I then started telling myself not to say something racist out loud while presenting, stupid I know, but here I am today still dealing with it and its caused me to get distracted in my subsequent different jobs. I reached out to a counselor and she gave me a couple suggestions, but was just curious if you’ve heard of others having this issue?