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How to help a 16 year old perfectionist?

My 16 year old daughter puts a ton of pressure on herself with grades and sports. She gets so nervous before a track meet that she cries or she gets so nervous about a test that she almost can't function. She does well but is really hard on herself if she isn't perfect. How can I help her relax and be OK with herself?

Everyone says be yourself but I don't know who I am.

I feel a little like a chameleon sometimes. I'm funny with one person and serious with another. Or I laugh about my mistakes with one group of friends but with other people I try to impress them by acting like I'm perfect. I don't know why I change so much depending on the people around me but I don't like that about myself and I don't even know which one is the real me. What do I do?

How do I get over the guilt of not being productive?

I feel like I have to be productive all the time. When I'm not I feel guilty. Even when I'm doing something fun I feel like I should be working or learning or contributing something. It's like I feel selfish for enjoying myself.

How do I stop being jealous and insecure?

My husband travels for work a lot and I don't hear much from him when he's out of town. I often start questioning if he's cheating on me. I worry I'm not attractive enough or fun enough for him. I looked through his phone once when he was in the shower and he caught me and was mad. When he's away, I ask questions about what he's doing and I sometimes stalk his coworkers social media profiles so I can see what's going on. I don't really think he's cheating but my worries get the best of me when he's gone. How do I stop being so jealous and insecure?

How do I cope with boredom?

How do I cope with boredom? I don’t mean being bored on a Sunday night or feeling bored while I’m watching my kid’s soccer game. I mean the boredom of midlife. I go to work, go to my kids’ activities, and try to manage things at my house. But I feel bored to tears about life in general. Every week looks the same. I’m surrounded by other parents who plaster on fake smiles and brag about the new windows they just got installed. My marriage is fine and family is OK but I feel like at this point, I’m just passing time until I die. Do I just lack mental strength? Am I just a boring person? Do I accept that life is supposed to be boring at this stage? Or is there something wrong with me?