What to do about an adult child who isn't interested in joining the real world?
Our 28 year old son seems content to live in our basement forever. He plays video games all day, hangs out with his friends who are also dependent on their parents, and do nothing. We tell him to apply for jobs and he occasionally seems to put in a half hearted effort. We know we need to set boundaries with him but how do we do that now? He's been living with us for 4 years -- he went to college and briefly lived with roommates before coming back here. He originally moved in with us because of the pandemic but now he seems content to stay here forever. It's not good for any of us and we want to know how to set limits without just kicking him out. What do we do?
How do I stop letting people upset me?
I lose my temper in conversations more often than I care to admit. Sometimes I'm short with a customer service person who is just trying their best and sometimes I just get annoyed with friends and family and I'm not proud of how I respond. What can I do to stop letting people upset me so much?
I discovered a family secret. How do I bring it up with my parents?
I found some old paperwork that revealed a family secret that my parents obviously went to great lengths to cover up from me and my brother. But now that I know the truth, I want to confront my parents to really know what happened. I don't want to upset them but I don't want to walk around pretending I don't know either. How do I bring it up so I can learn the rest of the story without causing them to panic know that I have this information?
My girlfriend always asks me how I feel. But I don't know how to feel so what should I say?
My girlfriend is always asking me how I feel about stuff. I don't really have an answer. I'm not exactly experiencing deep emotions every second of the day. I'm not sad or happy. I'm just there. She doesn't seem to believe me though and she gets frustrated. Is it normal to just not know what I feel or to not feel anything? What am I supposed to say to her?
My sister-in-law gives me unwanted advice. What do I say?
My sister-in-law feels the need to tell me what to do all the time. She makes suggestions for what I should wear when I'm going to an event. She makes suggestions on where our family should go on vacation. She tells me what to do to build my business but she has literally never owned a business. I usually just say "Okay" and change the subject because I don't want to have conflict but it's annoying that she seems to know everything. What can I say or do to make it stop?